How to Grieve the Old You While Becoming the New You
No one talks about the grief that comes with growth.
How healing sometimes means saying goodbye to a version of you that once helped you survive.
Even if she was anxious… even if she stayed too long… even if she didn’t love herself fully—
She still kept you alive.
And letting her go? That’s not easy.
Growth Feels Like Grief Sometimes
There’s a weird sadness that comes with becoming a better version of yourself.
You might feel:
Lonely as you leave old circles
Guilt for not showing up the same way
Doubt as you shed old habits that once felt safe
A strange ache when joy feels unfamiliar but deserved
This is normal.
You’re not broken—you’re breaking through.
What You’re Really Letting Go Of
You're releasing:
The version of you who made herself small
The you who kept quiet to keep the peace
The version that chased validation
The self that thought survival was all there was
You’re not losing her to shame.
You’re honoring her with rest.
4 Ways to Grieve and Grow at the Same Time
1. Write Her a Goodbye Letter
Thank her for everything she did to get you here.
Tell her you’re ready to take it from here—with more love, less fear.
Use the EmpowerHer Mindset Workbook to journal through this transition. There’s space to reflect, release, and reconnect with who you’re becoming.
2. Let Yourself Miss the Familiar
You’re allowed to miss who you were—even if you don’t want to go back.
It’s okay to feel both grief and pride in the same breath.
3. Celebrate the Small Moments of Becoming
The first time you set a boundary.
The day you didn’t respond to that text.
The moment you looked in the mirror and smiled.
That’s her legacy turning into your new life.
4. Be Gentle With the In-Between You
You’re not quite who you were…
And not yet who you’re becoming.
But even here—in the middle—you are worthy, whole, and healing.
Pause + Reflect:
What version of you are you letting go of this season?
What would you thank her for?
Take time to write it down or whisper it aloud.
And when you’re ready, imagine hugging her… and stepping forward with grace.
Want to share a page from your becoming journey? Tag @EmpowerHerPages or share your growth story—we’re celebrating the in-between too. 💛
Want to Walk Through This Transformation With Support?
The EmpowerHer Mindset Workbook is here to guide you as you let go of old beliefs and step into your healing era with confidence, softness, and strength.
