You’re Not Hard to Love: Releasing the Belief That You’re Too Much
Let’s say this out loud together:
“I am not too much. I am not too broken. I am not hard to love.”
Maybe no one ever said those exact words to you.
Or maybe someone did say the opposite—and it stuck.
Maybe you’ve been told:
“You’re too emotional.”
“You expect too much.”
“You come with too much baggage.”
And now, you carry this quiet shame that love might not be meant for you.
But here’s the truth:
You are not difficult to love. You’ve just been loving people who didn’t know how to hold you.
Where the “Too Much” Wound Comes From
This belief often starts young.
Maybe your emotions were ignored.
Your needs were dismissed.
You were taught to be small, easy, quiet.
So now, as an adult:
You overthink how you show up in relationships
You silence yourself to “keep the peace”
You believe love must be earned
But love doesn’t ask you to disappear.
It invites you to be seen.
4 Steps to Release the Lie That You’re Hard to Love
1. Challenge the Source, Not Yourself
Ask yourself:
Who first made me feel like I was “too much”?
Was it really you… or was it someone who couldn’t handle their own discomfort?
Let’s stop blaming ourselves for other people’s emotional immaturity.
2. Let Yourself Take Up Space in Love
You’re allowed to:
Ask for reassurance
Want emotional connection
Express your needs without apology
Be deep, passionate, vulnerable, and real
Those aren’t weaknesses. They’re your superpowers.
3. Speak Life Over Your Inner Narrative
Try affirming:
“I am not hard to love.”
“My emotions are valid.”
“I attract relationships that make room for all of me.”
Write them on sticky notes. Say them out loud. Let them re-write the lies.
4. Reframe What You’re Looking For
You’re not asking for “too much.”
You’re asking the wrong people.
Healthy love sounds like:
“I’m here.”
“Tell me how you’re feeling.”
“I don’t want you to shrink.”
Pause + Reflect:
Where in your life have you been dimming your light to be easier to love?
Write a letter to your younger self reminding her:
She was never too much. She just needed more room to bloom.
Tag @EmpowerHerPages and use #WorthyWithoutShrinkage to join the movement of women reclaiming their enoughness.
