Why You Don’t Have to Be Fully Healed to Be Worthy of Love

There was a version of me that believed I had to “fix” myself before I could be loved.
I thought I had to:

• Stop overthinking

• Stop spiraling

• Stop feeling “too much”

Before I could let someone in.
Before I could call it real love.

But the more I healed, the more I realized something powerful:

I was always worthy. Even in the middle of my mess. Even before the glow-up. Even before I fully believed it.

Where That Belief Comes From

Many of us were taught that healing = perfection.
That “high value” means having no baggage, no breakdowns, no bad days.

We internalize messages like:

• “You’re too emotional.”

• “No one will love you until you love yourself.”

• “You need to be whole first.”

But that’s shame, not truth.

The Truth About Healing and Love

Healing doesn’t have an end point.
You won’t wake up one day “fully healed” with a gold star on your forehead.

Real healing is ongoing. Cyclical. Human.
And you don’t have to wait until it’s complete to experience safe, nourishing love.

You Are Worthy of Love When…

• You still cry about the past sometimes

• You’re learning to set boundaries (and still slip up)

• You’re in therapy, doing shadow work, or just started journaling again

• You’re growing, stumbling, showing up imperfectly but trying

Someone can love you as you are—not as a “fixed” version of you.

What Healthy Love Looks Like During the Healing

• They give you space when you need it

• They offer emotional safety, not pressure

• They listen without trying to “fix” you

• They support your growth without expecting you to be perfect

Use the Know Your Worth Dating Journal to reflect on how your healing is shaping your needs, your desires, and your non-negotiables. You don’t have to navigate love alone—or perfectly.

Pause + Reflect:

What have you told yourself you have to “fix” before you deserve love?
Write it down. Then ask yourself: Is that true—or is it something I was taught to believe?

Healing is not a test you have to pass to be loved.
You are not a project. You are a person—whole, worthy, and growing.

Want to share your healing + dating story? Tag @EmpowerHerPages or use #HealingIsWorthy to remind someone else they’re enough, too.